Dr. (Prof) Adolf Lowies is your zentherapist, coach and psychologist.

prof@the-zentherapist.com

Dr. (Prof.) Adolf Lowies aka the zentherapist share his ZENITUDE and 35 years of psychology practice wisdom and experience on relationships, being human, love, dating and trying to make sense of stuff with a dash of humour.

I create online courses to transform people and relationships, empower and educate and sometimes , to entertain. I bring a wealth of insights, years of wisdom, experience and personal strength and my own quirky sense of humour to my courses and practice. But most of all: I actually care. If I am not busy interacting with my 1000,s of enrolled students worldwide, you will find me busy with the other loves of my life: Augusta, my lovely wife, Gradworx my private college,  patients in private practice, exercising and working out and surfing. I am an eternal optimist and my power animal is the African honey badger- known for its bravery, courage, survival instinct, toughness and (sometimes stupid) fearlessness - I don’t know how to tap out. 

Courses and Coaching by the zen-therapist

  • What’s your mating call ?

  • The Peter Pan Syndrome

  • The Princess Syndrome

  • Calluses of the Soul-when dysfunction and abuse feels like home

  • Soul-mating.

SUMMARY OF COURSES

The courses were selected and crafted as these were recurrent themes, questions and needs revealed by many of my patients. The courses contains videos, quizzes, reflection exercises ,PDF info, assessments, case studies, downloads, memes, a space for social interaction an opportunities to meet me online.

What’s your mating call ?

Many of my patient’s find it hard to to find the right kind of love and person and are often caught in relationship loops or heartbreak on repeat. They are surprised when I ask them “what’s your mating call ?” Finding love and choosing a partner should be more informed, intentional and deliberate and less less reactive and instinctive. If your “mating call” results in the wrong partners -don’t blame them- you should become aware of who you are inviting into your life- you have control over and can change your mating call. This transformative online course address in four modules:

  • Your brain in love : Dating, loving, relationships, dating vocabulary, biological and psychological aspects of dating and partner choices, attachment styles, relationship patterns and red flags.

  • Your YOU-niverse. All about you- you as the common denominator in your partner choices. Your emotional and cognitive biases, your self-esteem, preferred and undesired partner choices, your attachment style, your past relationships and childhood wounds. We answer the “ why” of your mating call.

  • Empowering and disempowering mating calls, the compatibility matrix and we answer the question “who answers your mating call”. You will learn to go eyes wide open into the dating game.

  • How to hack your relationship.(there is NO hacking a relationship -it is consistent leaning into it.) Now that you have your mating call on point and you get the desired partners in your life - how do you make the relationship work ? We need to erase the fairytale fantasy when looking for love. Love can be an amazing feeling, but it can also be filled with hard times, low points, and challenges. It's not a fantasy we should be aiming for, rather we should be looking for fulfillment on more days than not. The goal is to find someone who will ride the ups and downs of life with you. This module introduce tried and tested aspects of successful relationships such as communication, commitment, friendship, dedication, conflict management, and the couples Vision Board.

The Peter Pan Syndrome

They are mostly male, immature, have a fear of commitment, career issues (what career ?), low motivation, unreliable, entitlement(just take care of me), a blame mindset, extremely sensitive to constructive criticism and have a black belt in procrastination. As infuriating as they are -they can be super charming and show rare glimpses of promise and maturity-which give you hope and keep you hooked . Mostly they just avoid adulting. Find out if you are dating a Peter Pan or if your are a Peter Pan. This online course address in three modules:

  • The traits of a Peter Pan with case studies to showcase their behaviour, thinking, mindset and relationships and how they keep you captive with their childish charm and dependency.

  • The psychological roots, context and background of the Peter Pan. We answer the question : How did he become such a Peter Pan ? We also answer the question ”Why are you dating a Peter Pan?” (what’s wrong with me?)-maybe you are an enabler.

  • The silver bullet for Peter Pan,s , slackers, laggards , free loaders, parasites, juvenile men - and the women that enable them. This is a transformative module.

The Princess Syndrome

They are mostly female and have interesting traits such as : has a sense of entitlement or entitlement behaviour and self centeredness with a focus on superficiality. This can manifest in various ways, such as expecting special treatment or privileges, demanding attention and admiration from others, or having a lack of empathy and consideration for others, with disregard for others' feelings or skills. Nothing is good enough for them. They may chronically complain, whine, and be indecisive because nothing is ever good enough or perfect enough. Sounds familiar ?

A woman who suffers from PS lives life as a fairy-tale: focusing only on the pretty things, putting herself at the center of the universe, and obsessing about her looks. They often have unreasonable expectations that they deserve more, can get away with more, that being pretty or simply female entitles them to less effort.

There is a self sabotaging and disempowering side to the Princess Syndrome as well as it portrays women as dependent, weak, demure and fragile, needing “saving”, longing to be someone else or have some other life or to be saved and adored by other. Whether you're just going about your day-to-day life or looking for love, be you, not a princess. Even Disney moved with the times and now present young women as kind, independent, brave, confident and courageous. If Disney changed their narrative of the Princess -so can and should you.

This online course is presented in three modules:

  • Princess Syndrome traits and behaviour and relationships. The toxic self centred and privileged Princess and the dependent, demure, fragile -waiting to be saved Princess.

  • Why you become a Princess and why you are dating a princess ?

  • The antidote for the Princess Syndrome.

A lot of human behaviour is adaptive. Often when we grow up with abuse or have a poor self image we tend to be attracted to some form of the abuses we are used to and find ourself repeating patterns in abusive relationships. This is called a “trauma bond” - an emotional connection that develops between an abuser and the person they abuse. It can occur when the victim begins to feel sympathy or affection for their abuser. Trauma bonds can develop over time and are rooted in childhood wounds, previous relationships, learned helplessness and conditioning. This isn’t love -it is an unhealthy attachment style. The challenge is that people that are abused often grow calluses on their soul as a survival mechanism- and that the calluses, or adaptive behaviour becomes part of the problem. Many people are drawn to abusive relationships as it feels so familiar- almost like home.

This four part online course address the following :

  • A comprehensive discussion with case studies on abusive relationships and the creation of a trauma bond with its cycles, stages and signs.

  • A comprehensive discussion on the personality and traits of the “abused person” -learned helplessness, thinking and behavioral patterns, biases and coping skills.

  • A comprehensive discussion on the personality and traits of the “abuser”, their thinking and behaviour and world views and gender issues.

  • The antidote for abusive relationships and the trauma bond with practical steps and guidance that provides a real life map and changes to remedy, avoid and recover from a trauma bond.

Online Courses continue

Callouses of the Soul -when abuse and dysfunction feels like home

Soul-mating: